The title of my blog probably needs a little explanation - as its grammatically awkward, and probably a little odd - but it meant something to me, so I went with it...
Being a single mom to two young boys (and two dogs), for some reason automatically means that I get a lot of comments from passers by. The most common: "oh! looks like you've got your hands full!"
This comment always irks me. It always feels somehow like an implication that because I am 1 woman, outnumbered by both boy people and dogs, that somehow I need help, or am falling short. That I'm for some reason unable to do it on my own. BS, I tell ya.
Yes, I am outnumbered. And yes, there are definitely moments I'm overwhelmed by the amount on my plate. My house is usually a mess. I have yet to get the boys to preschool without forgetting at least one thing they were supposed to bring (but give me a break - the list of what I need to bring everyday is at 27 items! More on this to come!). I am responsible for 2 kids preschool, medical, and activity schedules. I have two jobs. So, yes, I guess you could say my hands are full.... but it doesn't feel like that.
My life doesn't feel like a constant overwhelming mess of wishing I had more help, or an extra set of hands. I don't feel like my hands are full! My heart is, though. I feel like my life is just bursting with the seems with joy and happiness. I would love nothing more than to some day welcome another child into our family (although, I'd like that to come after adding a second set of adult hands to the mix, but still...).
When I get the dreaded "looks like you have your hands full" comment, I smile politely, of course, but I also try to say something to the effect of "not really, we're doing pretty well, actually." Because its true. Sure, I may literally have my hands full with a kid on either hip. But usually, that's when we're dancing and being silly. When my heart is full. When we are joyful.